There are so many things in life that can harm us on our climb to success both professionally and emotionally. Ego can lead us down a path of destruction, and if we are not aware of the fact already; ego exists. Being self aware of when the ego is leading us down the wrong path is essential if we hope to be successful. Over the course of this blog we will look at examples of people who have let their egos destroy them and others who have recognised the ego and decided to tame it, stay humble and work their way to the top in a much more balanced and efficient way. Over the course of this blog we will look at some of the major takeaways ego is the enemy had to offer. My hope is that these lessons inspire you to read the book in its entirety.
Lesson Number 1
End your addiction to approval seeking. Ensuring that others approve of us is so important for the vast majority of us. We will change our opinions, the way we dress, the dreams we have, just to feel accepted by others. This is your ego. Ego feels the need to be liked and accepted by everyone and anyone. Accept the fact that not everyone in life will like you, be true to who you are, recognize the need for ego to feel accepted. Fight back and do not settle for other people's standards.
Lesson Number 2
Always be a student. The act of being a student humbles the ego. Being a student forces us to realize that we have not yet realized our full potential. You need to be able to accept negative feedback and constantly self assess. The ego hates to be criticized; this will hurt you so much in life if you cannot take constructive criticism. You will live your life with a veil of ignorance and never take the time to correct the behaviour and habits which are holding you back in life. Be a student, be humble, be open to constructive criticism.
Lesson Number 3
Play The Long Game and serve others. Serving others is a long term investment in yourself. Giving away to others can help build relationships, reputation and teach you so many life lessons. When we play the long game we set ourselves up for living out our dreams and truly doing what we love in life. Ask yourself, where do you want to be in 10 or 20 years from now? Map your actions to make that dream become a reality, do not settle for short schemes that may give you some money but will leave you feeling unfulfilled in the long run.
Lesson Number 4
Stop mental masturbation and just work. Having an idea is not enough to cultivate it, judge your progress by what you have made. How many of us have great ideas and live in a state of “one day” and “I’m almost ready” or, “the perfect time will be 5 years from now.” Stop living in a state of mental analysis and take action towards whatever it is you are contemplating. The time will never be perfect to lose those 20 pounds, start that business, work on your mental health. So just start.